Who Am I
CEO OF HEALING HEARTS RELATIONSHIP COACHING
Laura doyle CERTIFIED RELATIONSHIP COACH
I am a physician working to improve the quality of life for my patients through a holistic approach to care. In addition, I have a bachelors degree in Psychology and I am a Certified Relationship Coach. But most importantly, I am a woman just like you, who transformed my marriage through a proven framework.
I take a Mind Body and Soul holistic approach to care. I understand that one's perception of quality of life starts at home. If things are not right at home, chances are that one's health and mood are also affected. I am committed to providing relationship coaching with a spiritual focus.
Are you looking to save your marriage or avoid divorce? I remember being in your same shoes, looking for the same answers. I was able to get support and coaching which completely transformed my marriage. I became a relationship coach to help other women get the same guidance that helped steer my marriage back on track. Healing Hearts Relationship Coaching was created with the mission to empower women to create the love life they have always dreamed of. If you're having marital issues and you're frustrated with counseling or self help books and courses, consider relationship coaching. I'm waiting to help heal your heart and marriage so that you can have your happily ever after love story.
When I met my husband, I immediately knew that I would marry him. It was as if the skies opened up and a voice from above spoke to me. I remember being so wide eyed, optimistic, and excited about marriage. I imagined that, once married, I would always feel loved, would never feel lonely, and could trust fully.
Needless to say, marriage wasn’t everything it was cracked up to be. After saying “I do,” it seemed that my husband completely changed and became someone I didn’t know at all. I had many disappointments, hurts, and unmet expectations. I felt like I had been bamboozled—tricked, as in a bait and switch. I believed that he was the cause of our problems and often told him, “If you would just change, then all of our marriage issues would disappear and our marriage would be great.”
I was so self-righteous and thought that he should be grateful to be lucky enough to be married to me—yet he certainly didn’t display any excitement about it. Despite the fact that we were living in a tight, 600-square-foot New York City apartment, our hearts couldn’t have been any further apart from each other. Most nights, he slept on the couch. Our marriage was ice cold, and we were no more than roommates splitting the bills.
I remember feeling so hopeless. I read every self-help book on relationships, but somehow the advice just seemed like it wasn’t the right fit for our marriage. I attended numerous marriage courses—alone. I felt like I was the only one working on our marriage, which was exhausting, especially when it was him who needed to change. He did join me at weekly meetings with spiritual couples for counseling and advice, but that seemed like putting a Band-Aid on a gashing wound that actually needed stitches.
I toyed with the thought of leaving him on a monthly basis, but my religious convictions prevented me from following through. We eventually went through a tumultuous time when leaving seemed like my only option. We went to one session of marital counseling, and the counselor said that he couldn’t help us because we needed individual counseling to address our separate issues before attempting to heal our marriage. This led me back to a place of hopelessness. It confounded me that two devoted, God-loving people couldn’t seem to make this marriage thing work. I committed to fasting and praying for our marriage.
My prayers were answered when I found a book by Laura Doyle. I listened to the audiobook The Surrendered Wife in a single sitting and immediately started implementing the Six Intimacy Skills™. They transformed my marriage instantly.
I came to understand what true respect looks like. I had always felt respect for my husband, so when he said he didn’t feel respected, I’d disregard his feelings and say, “Obviously I respect you. What are you talking about?” I was blown away when I read Laura’s description of what respect looks like to a man. I thought, “If that is respect, then no wonder my husband is miserable.” I had been giving my advice and opinions on everything. I asked questions all the time, convinced that I was connecting with him as I would with a girlfriend, when he took it as me questioning his every decision. Rather than focus on my desires, I asked him for things like he was Santa Claus, which made me come across as a whining, spoiled child and annoyed him to no end.
That was the tipping point when I realized that it was, in fact, me, rather than my husband, who had needed to change all of these years. Previously, I had complained that I was the only one doing the work in our marriage. I came to see that, as the woman, I’d always had the power to save my marriage and set the tone in my home. I just needed the right keys.
The Intimacy Skills were the keys to opening the door to having a passionate and loving marriage. It was clear to our friends that something was very different. One friend even commented that we now looked like a true family rather than two singles living together. My marriage, which had been on the brink of divorce, overnight became a loving, joyful safe haven. My husband returned to being the fun-loving, kind, compassionate, spiritual man whom I had fallen in love with and respected. I no longer felt bamboozled.
I want to help you have the same kind of intimacy, passion and peace in your relationship. To learn how, apply for a Discovery Session here.
Get to know me
I am blessed to be married to an amazing man and the mom of a very cute toddler. These two are my favorite guys in the world and they hold my heart. They motivate me every day and they are the reason I do what I do. I know what its like to be a stressed out mom and an unfulfilled wife. I was able to turn that around to have the life I have always dreamed of- a life of balance and an abundance of love. If you allow me, I will guide you down the path I've traveled to create your happily ever after love story. Wishing you Love, Laughter and Kisses.